One way to make yourself happier is to find purpose and meaning in what you do.
Well, that’s an easy statement to make!
But how do you go about finding your purpose and meaning?
Which path should you be following?
At the beginning of this year we ran a series of webinars to help people organise and motivate themselves for the year ahead. One of the recurring themes from our attendees was the need for clarity of purpose.
In this article we explore how to find your purpose and why doing this is linked to happiness.
Aligning your values to your actions – listen to your heart
It’s important to firstly understand what your values are. What your heart tells you you should be doing? How often do we listen to our heart and gut?
The second step is to then assess whether these values align to what you are actually doing.
Where your actions don’t match your values then you’re trying to force yourself to work at a frequency that’s wrong for you – and this is not the path to success or happiness.
This misalignment might relate to the type of work you do, the hours you work, how you relate to your family…in fact this can apply to pretty much any part of your life.
“I tend to find it easier to blame or think it is not my responsibility.”
It’s like having a fog in your brain. Your mind is cluttered with so many thoughts and perhaps you just can’t think straight. Then you feel things are not going your way, though you’re not sure why. You often blame outside influences, other people…but you really need to take the responsibility yourself.
If you’re in a situation of misalignment then you need to rethink what you do and why – and find clarity of purpose.
Seeking clarity of purpose
“I need to set a goal and plan”
In our webinars we guided our attendees through a series of exercises to help them hold up a metaphorical mirror to see where they are and where they wanted to go. These were introduced as they learnt more about the makings of the brain and how the chemicals are stimulated, moving from fear into hope.
Stimulating oxytocin to clear the fog
Through an exercise on aspirations, we expanded their brains by writing down all the things they want to do. This stimulates the oxytocin we need to help clear the fog.
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We continued with exercises establishing what their “self-talk” is, what limitations they put on themselves and moving towards changing their internal language.
Other reflection exercises helped the participants to leverage their strengths and identify with the values that are important to them. Visualisations further activated different parts of the brain and reinforced their focus on their aspirations.
Creating a purpose statement
Participants were then ready to form a purpose statement from their heart and mind, reinforcing their commitment to align their purpose to their values. This led them to create their own vision board as they put their aspirations into action. Creating a clear roadmap with specific milestones helped them focus on the steps they needed to take and gave them motivation to move forwards.
“Always better to create our strategy knowing the bigger goal.”
The understanding of neuroscience and the chemicals in the brain gave them a methodology to continue to remain healthy. They learnt how to use their brains effectively and energetically to achieve their goals.
A visualisation exercise for you to try
“I need to start my day being more positive and believe in my abilities.”
Try this visualisation exercise to identify your own values and purpose.
1. Find a quiet, calm place where you feel comfortable and relaxed.
2. Close your eyes.
3. Be in a garden or your favourite place, focus on the nature around you, observe the colours, smell the fragrance, feel the energy, the breeze or the sun on your back.
4. Once relaxed…
- Think about how you would like your life to be in two years’ time. Create a mental photograph or movie of yourself at this point and visualise what you are doing. Make it as vivid and ‘real’ as you can.
- What does this feel having achieved this?
- For example, if your goal is to expand your business to include a new office, visualise walking into that new office and meeting your new team members.
- If your purpose is to be healthy, think of being well and healthy and what that feels like.
- If it is it working on a project or making a difference – be clear what it is.
- Once you visualise this version of your life, feel the emotion of achieving this, be confident in your ability and trust in the energy around you to achieve this.
- The pride of achieving this, the relief of successfully completing a major project or the excitement of publishing your first book, starting a business, achieving good health, finding your companion or partner, whatever it is.
5. Spend at least 10 minutes just seeing and feeling this version of your future self.
6. Anchor this in your sub-conscience and then build a vision board: put an action plan on paper.
Ideally you should set aside a few minutes each day to repeat this exercise in order to get the full benefits.
And boost it further every morning by releasing serotonin, through being grateful and looking at the positives around you. This gives you a good start to each day.
For a free recording of this visualisation exercise from our expert coach, Tasneem Virani, please contact us and ask for the “sense of purpose visualisation”.
Why visualisations work
This visualisation exercise stimulates oxytocin (often called the ‘love hormone’) which reinforces the positive feelings associated with your values and purpose.
This creates a powerful emotional stimulus in your subconscious which motivates and focuses you on achieving your goals.
Instead of feeling swamped and unable to see clearly, the attendees left our webinars with a sense of true purpose and a plan for achieving it.
“I learnt how much we have actually done as a team and how aligned we really are.”
“I lost my purpose completely and this reinvigorated me.”
“The purpose statement has helped me refocus.”
“I learnt more about my team and their goals.”
“The emotions that are key to our performance. It’s good to know how to control them, also by creating our vision we are much closer to success.”
“I have a plan and can set quarterly objectives with outcomes to stay focused.”
“I feel more confident now”
“The tools that systematically helped me to focus on what is most important to the business and for me.”
Find your clarity
Could Claris Coaching help you achieve clarity of purpose and success for the year ahead?
We run group training sessions and business support services throughout the year. Contact us to find out more.
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